Not long after I started reading about wicca, I started spending more time talking to Adrian, before we had hung out a lot but not really talked as much. I had just started trying meditation (something I am still not great at) and I remembered him saying something about his meditation. So I asked him if he had any tips. That's when I found out that he had studied wicca before but wasn't anymore, he still remembered some things from it. He has become one of my friends that I can openly talk about what I'm struggling with or where I am at religion-wise.
Adrian is the one that gave me a lot of help (and by that, I mean listened to me stress out incessantly) with the issue of how much if any, to tell my parents. When I first asked him what he thought, he said, "family is everything, do what you think is best for them". And while that didn't answer my question right away, it did get me thinking on the pro's and con's of this decision. I'm not worried about them disowning me, I know they love me, I'm just not sure they like me. I had to decided if the pro's to telling them were going to benefit them or just me. Likewise I had to think about if the con's were just something I was hiding behind to avoid conflict.
He listened to me agonize over this decision for a good 4 months. (That's not to downplay other people's help and support, but you have to give credit where credit is due.) In the end, my decision came from a compilation of his advice to do what would be best for them; and others advice that it was up to me, it was my business what I believe, and it all depends on how much them knowing/not knowing meant to me. He was also the one that reminded me that, if I decided not to tell them just yet it didn't mean I could never tell them if the time felt right.
Aside from that specific situational, he has also shared with me what he remembers from when he studied, some of his experiences from that time, and keeps an eye out for resources I might find useful.
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